Sunday, January 10, 2010

You Grow To The Extent You Reach Out

If we wanna grow especially spiritually, we need to reach out first. We should reach out our generous hands and show kindness to those who need it. Still remember my post about 125 years ago at Harvard? This is sort of a continuation from that post. Can you recall in the story the president of Harvard ridiculed the Standfords and missed a golden opportunity for a magnanimous endowment? I'm sure he regretted and wished that he was a little kinder towards the poor-looking couple. Have you ever made this mistake before? Judging people before you know them and depriving them of your kindness?

This is something I have learnt from my late mother when I was still a kid. Back then she always reminded me, "You must always be kind to others." And I can say that I didn't disappoint her. Here's something all of us should engrave in our mind an soul: "What we do for ourselves alone dies with us; but what we do for others is simply timeless." No one is more deceived or fooled than a self-serving person. Invest in the success of others. You see when you reach out and aid someone up a mountain, you'll find yourself close to the summit as well.

Calcin Coolidge said it best: "No man was ever honored for what he received. Honor has been the reward for what he gave." How true is that. I know it this might sound a little ridiculous but it is possible to give away and become richer! Likewise it is also possible to hold on to something so damn tightly and lose every single thing! The irony of life if you like. Those who are benevolent shall be rich. By unconditionally watering others, he waters himself too.

Believe it or not, God actually send us to earth for an everlasting special mission: to help others. If you treat a person as they are, they will remain the same. If you treat them as they were what they potentially could be, they CAN and WILL become what they could be! A little melodramatic but it is true if you are willing to stoop down and reach out your hands to pull them up.

What I gave, I have;
What I spend, I had;
What I kept, I lost.
~Old Epitaph~

Some might say that by doing so we are foolishly making worthless sacrifice, but I reckon it is an wonderful investment. By giving more of yourself, you are actually creating more space for yourself to grow inside. So don't hesitate and start giving. Don't stop giving till it feels so damn good. Make this commitment now: I will leave others better than I found them. This is what I strive to do every day. :)

If you want others to improve, let them know what they are capable of. Give them faith and believe in them. People will treat you the way you VIEW them with your heart. He above all ceilings created everyone of us to be unique. Find the good in everyone; heave out their talents and potentials. To be their leaders, let them know that you are always right behind them. Let them know you'll be there to pull them up when they fall down. Always remember what James Matthew Barrie once said:

Those who bring sunshine to the lives of
others cannot keep it from themselves.

~First Commenter~