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Rest In Peace My Father-in-law

May you rest in peace, my father-in-law who had been battling cancer for months. You do not need to suffer anymore.
Rest In Peace My Father-in-law

Life is fickle and sometimes it can be really erratic. Sometimes life can be unpredictably fun and happy, but at times life can be terribly traumatising and brutal too. Hereby, with a heavy heart, I want to bid farewell to my so-called second "father". May you rest in peace, my father-in-law. Though this goodbye was painful, it was a merciful one for him at least.

Rest In Peace My Father-in-law

Around 9 months ago, we received a call from my father-in-law, telling us that he had been diagnosed with terminal disease-cancer. At that very moment, we were all speechless and could not believe what we had heard. The next day, I immediately drove to his house 500km away to bring him back to our home. On my way, I still could not accept the cruel reality that God has arranged for my father-in-law. It was abrupt and harsh, to say the least.

Folding Gold Ingots For Their Late Grandpa

Folding Gold Ingots For Their Late Grandpa

Folding Gold Ingots For Their Late Grandpa

Folding Gold Ingots For Their Late Grandpa

Burning "money" for their late grandpa.

Immediately after arriving in Melaka, we arranged for him to meet one of the most renowned neuro-surgeons in Melaka to seek a second opinion. Unfortunately, the results revealed by the specialist was identical to the previous doctor. The growth of the tumour in his brain had impaired his speech and vision. My father-in-law underwent an urgent operation to remove the malign growth but again, the doctor claimed that not all the cancerous cells could be removed.

Chinese Praying Ceremonies During a Funeral Wake

05 Chinese Praying Ceremony During Funeral Wake

05 Chinese Praying Ceremony During Funeral Wake

Prayer sessions were conducted by a monk to "smoothen" my father-in-law's journey to the afterlife.

The doctor told us that my father-in-law had around 3 to 6 months to live which was really a piece of heartbreaking news for all of us to hear, let alone to bear. We gritted our teeth and did our best to help him lengthen his lifespan. Upon recovery, 30 cycles of radiotherapy sessions were arranged for him to suppress his growth of the cancerous cells. Regrettably, the radiotherapy treatments could do little to stave off the rampant invasion of cancer.

I Have Hired A Musical Band For My Father-in-law

I Have Hired A Musical Band For My Father-in-law

He loves it when it is merry!

MRI scanning showed that the cancer growth was even more extensive than it used to be. Doctors then arranged another 10 cycles of radiotherapy sessions in a bid to at least slow down the monstrous cells which have turned against my father-in-law. Again, it was futile and his condition deteriorated rapidly. Soon he was bedridden but the second radiotherapy session did help to prolong his days for him to celebrate one last Chinese New Year with us, his daughters and of course his two beloved grandchildren.

Final Prayers Ritual Before His Cremation

Final Chinese Prayers Ritual Before His Cremation

Daughters

Final Chinese Prayers Ritual Before His Cremation

In-law

Final Chinese Prayers Ritual Before His Cremation

Final Chinese Prayers Ritual Before His Cremation

Final Chinese Prayers Ritual Before His Cremation

Jordan boy and Jasmine girl paying their final respect to their grandpa

As his nervous system was crippled by the cancerous cells which have ravaged his brain, he could not move his feet and eventually both his arms. His vision started to blur and soon he completely lost his appetite. His pain was so excruciating that even the morphine that the doctor had prescribed was useless. It was really sad to see him struggling and battling with his diseases that we could do nothing about. How I wish mercy killing is legal in Malaysia to at least let him leave this world with dignity! With little to no food intake, he eventually succumb to the nemesis which had tortured him for months. Then again, it was for the better as he no longer has to suffer.

Accompanying My Father-in-law For His Final Journey

Accompanying My Father-in-law For His Final Journey

Accompanying My Father-in-law For His Final Journey

His final mile

The silver lining would be his precious time spent with his two daughters and two grandchildren. My wife was the one who had single-handedly taken care of his father full-time in our home. She cooked all his meals and attended to all his needs. I am sure my father-in-law was relieved to be taken care of by his eldest daughter during his final days.

His Final Moments Spent With Us

His Final Moments We Spent Together

His Final Moments We Spent Together

His Final Moments We Spent Together

His Final Moments We Spent Together

His Final Moments We Spent Together

Our final family portrait...

While he was recovering from his surgery, my late father-in-law did spend a lot of quality time with his daughters and especially Jordan boy and Jasmine girl. They played board games together and indulged in laughter. It was a good bonding time for grandfather and his two grandkids indeed. The memories that they had together were priceless.

May You Rest In Peace

Rest In Peace My Father-in-law

It was really saddening that my late father-in-law had to leave this world in such a state. Still, I know he is grateful that in his final months, his two daughters have done everything they could to help him. At least, he could be with his closest family members who sincerely care for him during his final moments. May you rest in peace, my father-in-law.

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  1. My deepest condolences to you and your family! Please take good care. 🙏

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  2. So sad to hear the news. At least it did not drag on too long - once one gets this dreaded scourge, it would be best to go sooner. No need to drag on and suffer so much, really tragic to watch those in the situation.
    God bless his soul, may he rest in peace. Heartfelt condolences especially to your missus and all loved ones.

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    1. You are right. At least he does not have to suffer anymore.

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  3. My deepest condolences to you and your family.

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  4. I am sorry to hear this. My condolence to you and family. I lost both parents back to back in less than 2 years. It wasn't easy for me but time heals.

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