Respect is not something that is immediately bestowed. Instead of demanding respect, you must earn it. Here are 8 Qualities that will make you more likeable. Whether you are in a position of leadership or a coworker, it is essential that your colleagues respect you. They may admire your work ethic, knowledge, or ability to seal the transaction. However, respect is more than that. If you can earn their regard as an individual, you will have truly won the game.
8 Qualities That Will Make You More Likeable
1. Be Courteous
Be courteous to everyone you encounter during the day, from family members to coworkers to the cashier at the supermarket. Extend to others the same courtesy you would expect to receive yourself. Consider things you can take to demonstrate courtesy. Open the door for the person behind you at the coffee shop or let the individual with one item walk ahead of you in the supermarket store. Please and thank you should always be used.
2. Be Respectful
Eliminate impolite habits such as rolling your eyes, interrupting, and speaking adversely about others. Not only are these actions disrespectful to the individual with whom you are interacting, but they also discourage or impede further involvement or resolution of issues and can create a permanent rift. Instead, cultivate an atmosphere of polite listening. Even if you disagree with someone's beliefs or thoughts, everyone has the right to be heard. Consider how you would like to be treated if you have something to say, particularly if the matter at hand is significant.
3. Be an Active Listener
Listening is not a passive process but rather an engaged one. Think before speaking. In the majority of contemporary talks, one person's remarks "trigger" the listener, who subsequently shares their own tale along the same lines. Instead of telling your story, you should ask questions that invite the other person to elaborate. Most individuals will be charmed by your concern.
4. Be Helpful
Respect is earned by constantly being willing to provide a hand or lend an ear anytime help is required or an opportunity presents itself. Consider helping opportunities that you may have ignored in the past. Does a coworker require assistance with a major project? Can you grab someone a cup of coffee? Attempt to be helpful multiple times per day. Remember that the more you give the more you will get. Be kind and give unconditionally.
5. Stop Making Excuses
Your actions are determined by your decisions, and absent unanticipated circumstances, there is no justification for making excuses. Accept responsibility for your actions. For example, if you're consistently late, don't create stupid excuses. Instead of obsessing over your mistakes, look for opportunities to learn from them and do better next time. Instead of dwelling on your flaws, ask yourself, "How can I improve my conduct or situation?"
6. Free Your Anger and Yourself
No one is harmed by harbouring hatred or a grudge besides oneself. Permit yourself a moment of anger if you become upset, then move on and either remedy the matter or put it behind you. Allow yourself and others some time off. Forgive, and then forget.
7. Be Flexible
Being stubborn will get you nowhere. Don't be rigid. Remember that the only constant in life is changes. Recognize that the evolution process involves change. Make an effort to evolve as a person; acquire new abilities, engage in new activities, and reexamine your automatic actions in particular. And don't forget to congratulate yourself on the path to being a better person for whatever improvement you make.
8. Always Smile
Nobody likes to talk to another person with a sour face. When you smile earnestly, you show your enthusiasm. Putting a smile on your face injects humour into your life. No matter how tough the going is, always smile and be positive. Look at Mona Lisa; she keeps on smiling even with her back against the wall, no? So smile more often, and you will be more likeable by everyone around you. However, remember that your smiles should be genuine, ok?
There you go folks, 8 qualities that will make you more likeable no matter where you go. Practise these 8 qualities truthfully with your heart. Believe in the process and know that eventually (sooner or later), you will be a better person and more likeable in the office, school, community or at home.
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