The more your mama shower you with lots of TLC (Tender Loving Care) when you are young, the more confident you will be when you grow up! Researchers have found out that those young children who were being lavished with affection by their mothers, will be able to cope with stress later in their adult life. No wonder I can cope quite well with my life right now. Must be because my mommy had given me lots of love when I was young. Ha :D
It seems that the more your mama kisses you, hug you and tell you they love you will turn make you a better man in the future. Mothers' unconditionally love can cultivate that amazing emotional resilience children needed. In other words if the more the children were loved by their mother, the stronger their "emotional muscles" will be. The results are derived from approximately 500 people, from the US state of Rhode Island, who were studied as children and adults.
Apparently the more affection you receive from your mommy, the stronger the bond between the two of you. Dr Joanna Maselko who led the research said that high levels of motherly affection are likely to facilitate secure attachments and bonding. Maternal affection not only lower distress but will also help children to develop effective life, social, and coping skills, which will stand them in good stead as adults. Wow! So the early stage of life is indeed very important. So let's see how the research is being carried out shall we?
A psychologist graded the quality of interactions between the mothers and their eight-month-old children during a routine developmental check-up. The psychologist judged how well the mother responded to her child's emotions and needs, and gave her an "affection score" based on the warmth of the interaction. After 30 years, the researchers spoke to the children again, who were now adults, and surveyed them about their current well-being and emotions.
The group was also questioned if they thought their mothers had been affectionate towards them, with responses ranging from "strongly agree" to "strongly disagree". The results obtained revealed that children whose mothers gave them lots of affection could handle all types of different distress way better. In particular, the children of warm mothers were far better at dealing with anxiety than those of emotionally cold mothers.
The researchers said: "It is striking that a brief observation of level of maternal warmth in infancy is associated with distress in adult offspring 30 years later." They said the findings added to the growing evidence that early childhood helped set the stage for later life experiences, but claimed the influence of other factors, such as personality, upbringing and schooling, could not be ruled out.
Again, their research has proved that mothers' love is really important. Babies are not born knowing what to do especially on how to control their emotions. Babies learn by being distressed and soothed by their mothers' affection and love. IMHO, I strongly agree with this research. I was from a poor family, but it never made me feel "small" in any way. Moreover I have never felt that we were inadequately provided. Instead me and my brother have always feel so contended and grateful. We felt that we have everything. Was it because of our mama's unconditional love?